It's just business

Perhaps one of the most important laws of nature is that of men’s urges to copulate. I’m not certain what could be the reasons why such behavior governs the majority of men these days. It seems like despite all laws and contradiction regarding this very sensitive issue, men continue to search for those special, adventurous furtive encounters.

I’m no scientist, so I can’t tell you why men behave the way we do. I guess is got to do with the genes—considering the huge amount of men searching for female companionship—the only explanation at this point that I can come up with is that such behavior (that of men always yarning for adventurous, sexual encounters) is unavoidable, unpreventable, unstoppable.

I read somewhere that the majority of men are unfaithful. Maybe the majority of men aren’t being sexually satisfied at home. Such claim at this point would only be speculation, mainly because I don’t have credible data, nor have I done any type of research on the matter. Moreover, in most cases I believe that both men and women are just as unfaithful as the other.

I guess my personal perception at this point is that men are normally drawn to certain situations were the passion, the intensity of the forbidden, and the adrenaline rush of hiding are more strong that hiding in itself. For these reasons is suspect that women always take every precaution in masquerading their intimacy with others in the safest, inconspicuous and furtive way.

Most men I know are unfaithful. This is just a reality I came to understand 20 years ago. At that point, the world I knew was formed by those people I had contact with—including family members and close friends—as well as those folks in the movies that where always seducing women and using every imaginable resource to get laid (to put it in more blunt and simple terms).

So there’s this idea that men are unfaithful from birth, and that women somehow because of their roles of mothers, caregivers and self-sacrificing beings do not somehow fall into the lustful, hidden world of passion. I believe women cheat just as much as man do, and I base that on my personal perspective as well as that of other people I know. There are studies and books that talk about this subject, and through those studies researches have determined that there really is no difference between that behavior on men and women. It is true…men cheat, and even though men do cheat, women cheat as well only that they’re a lot more careful than men are.

According to Cathy Wong (August 12, 2003) men have a greater desire to have different partners than women do. Wong states that:

The new study, conducted by Bradley University psychologist David Schmitt and published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, is impressive in its scope: It involved 16,288 college students from 50 countries in the Americas, Europe, Africa, Asia, and Australia. Men and women were asked how many partners they would like to have in the next month. The average response from men was 1.87 and from women, 0.78; more than a quarter of men and just five percent of women said they wanted more than one partner in the next month. Over the next 10 years, men wanted an average of nearly six partners; women, just over two.

Perhaps is inevitable as I stated in the beginning, and maybe our authorities ought to review those laws prohibiting legal and organized prostitution in the states such as California. But if this is a moral issue, then the morality will be measured according to the view of the majority as in any democracy. I am not for supporting prostitution where it is not welcomed, but maybe in a liberal state such as California, prostitution wouldn’t pose such a drastic example of liberalism portrayed in other Californian laws and events such as marihuana use for medicinal purposes, or the gay community and their rights.


Young, Cathy (August 12, 2003). Look Who’s Cheating. Men, Women and Evolution. Reasononline [online] Available at: http://www.reason.com/cy/cy081203.shtml